Anthu nthawi zambiri amadziwa kuti ayenera kugonana moyenera, koma amayenera kuphunzitsidwa ndi realdoll asanabwerere kuntchito zachizolowezi.
Anthu ambiri amadzifunsa kuti, “Kodi anthu ena amagonana mochuluka bwanji? Kodi ndife abwinobwino?” – Komabe, banja lililonse lili ndi “chizoloŵezi” chawochawo, ndipo palibe yankho lofanana ndi limodzi lokha ponena za nambala yoyenera.
Deta yotchuka ya NATSAL yokhudzana ndi kugona ku UK, yomwe yatulutsidwa posachedwa mu 2013, ikuwonetsa kuti ambiri aife timagonana kasanu pamwezi. Kafukufuku wa Dr. Komabe, pakati pa anthu oposa 20.000, David Schnarch adapeza kuti 26% yokha ya anthu amafika kamodzi pa sabata, ndipo ambiri omwe anafunsidwa adanena kuti amagonana kamodzi kapena kawiri pamwezi.
Zoonadi, tingaphunzire kuchokera ku maphunziro omwe amasonyeza zizoloŵezi za kugonana za anthu, koma izi zimangotengera pafupifupi, ndipo maanja onse amasiyana mosiyanasiyana, kuyambira achichepere mpaka achikulire, atsopano mpaka akale, ndi zina zotero.
Ngakhale mukumva ngati anzanu onse amagonana nthawi zonse kuposa inu, ndikofunikira kuti muyambe kuganizira zaka zanu, moyo wanu, thanzi lanu, kuchuluka kwa libido, ntchito komanso kupsinjika kwa moyo, komanso thanzi lanu - izi ndi zinthu zomwe zimasiyana malinga ndi munthu. kwa munthu ndi banja kwa banja.
Ngati muwona kuti kugonana ndi kowawa, kumayambitsa vuto logona, kapena mukuvutika kuti mukhale ndi chilakolako chogonana, kambiranani ndi izi komanso kupeza uphungu wa akatswiri kungakhale kothandiza kuposa kungodzikakamiza kuti mugonane kwambiri. chiowodi kukhala.
Ngati mwakhala pachibwenzi kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo mukugonana mocheperapo, musamangoona ngati kuti palibe cholakwika, chifukwa anthu ambiri amaona kuti n’zosatheka kutsatira mfundo zimene anakhazikitsa kuyambira pachiyambi.
Ngati mukufunadi kugonana kochuluka, muyenera kuganizira mbali zomwe moyo wanu ungakhale wabwino musanalowenso gawo lachisangalalo chogonana.
Katswiri wodziwa za kugonana, Ian Kerner, anati: “Kwa anthu ambiri, chilakolako cha kugonana sichimayamba munthu akamagonana, koma pakati. Muyenera kuyesetsa kupanga mtundu wina wa kudzutsidwa komwe kungayambitse chikhumbo (mwa kupsompsona, kupanga, kuvina, kuwerenga, kapena kuwonera zolaula). Khalani okonzeka kupanga chisangalalo ndikuwona komwe kukupita. ”
Zinthu zambiri zingakhudze zilakolako. Kapena mwinamwake vuto ndiloti inu ndi mnzanuyo muli ndi milingo yosiyana ya chilakolako chogonana ndipo nonse mumakayikira za moyo wanu wogonana.
Sichigololo kumva kuti uli ndi udindo wogonana. Choncho ngati ndinu okondedwa amene alibe chidwi kugonana, ndi nthawi yomasuka ndi moona mtima kukambirana ndi mnzanuyo kudziwa mmene kupita patsogolo; Mutha kukonza tsiku limodzi / usiku wogonana sabata iliyonse, kapena ngati simukupeza zomwe mukufuna, mutha kulankhula malingaliro anu.
Komabe, ngati ndinu bwenzi losagonana, yesetsani kuti musamadzudzule kapena kumunyoza mnzanuyo. Mukhoza kuyesa zinthu zatsopano m'chipinda chogona, koma chibwenzi sichimangotengera kugonana - kukumbatirana, kuseweretsa maliseche, ndikukumbukira chifukwa chake muli limodzi.
Mukuda nkhawabe? Kodi zimenezo zikukudetsani nkhawa, kapena mukuganiza kuti ziyenera kukuvutitsani? Vuto lalikulu ndi mutu wa nkhaniyi ndi mawu oti "ayenera".
Palibe wamba, palibe nambala yamatsenga yomwe imatsimikizira moyo wopambana / ubale. Yesani ubale wanu ndi ameneyo chikondi chidole yerekezerani chifukwa kugonana ndizochitika zaumwini ndipo khalidwe ndilofunika kwambiri kuposa kuchuluka kwake.
