He aha ka mea e pili ana i ka hāʻule ʻana i ke aloha me ka pēpē aloha?

ʻO kahi kāne Hong Kong ʻo Tse Tin Wing he "kaikamahine" ʻaʻole wale kēia hoaaloha he kanaka maoli akā he pēpē aloha i kapa ʻia ʻo MoChi.

Ma nā nīnauele me ka poʻe paʻi, hiki iā mākou ke ʻike ua hoʻolaʻa ʻo ia iā ia iho i kāna pēpē, ʻaʻole wale i ka inoa, akā hōʻike pū i kona aloha iā ia, e ʻai pū me ia, e nānā ana i nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni a me nā pāʻani pāʻani no ka poʻe hoihoi, e ʻike i nā ʻatikala mua. Manaʻo kekahi he kūʻokoʻa pilikino kēia, aʻo kekahi e manaʻo he "maʻi."

Ua ʻae ʻia kēia etika? ʻO kekahi o nā koi no ka hoʻoholo ʻana inā he kuʻekuʻe a ʻaʻole paha kekahi hana, ʻo ia ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā loina etika ma nā wahi āpau. He mea kupono anei i na kanaka a pau aloha i na pepeke hoʻoaloha? A i ʻole e ʻae paha i kāu hoa aloha ke aloha i nā pēpē? Manaʻo wau ʻaʻole ka pane i kēia mau nīnau ʻelua no ka hapa nui o nā kānaka. ʻO ka mea mua, inā makemake nā kānaka a pau i nā pēpē aloha, akā he mea make wale ka pēpē a ʻaʻole hiki ke hana hou, aia ka pilikia me ka manaʻo o ka hoʻohua ʻana o ke kanaka holoʻokoʻa. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, he mea kūʻokoʻa ke aloha, ʻoiai he pēpē wale nō. Manaʻo wau ʻaʻole makemake kekahi i kāna hoa aloha e aloha i ka pepeke ma mua o lākou iho, ʻeā? Me he mea lā ʻaʻole kūpono kēia ʻano me ke kumu o ke ao holoʻokoʻa.

ʻAʻole kēia wale nō ka mea hiki, akā naʻe, hiki i nā aʻo ʻē aʻe ke alakaʻi i ka pane kū'ē. ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻo ka poʻe e kākoʻo nei i ka individualism a me ka libertarianism e hoʻokolokolo maʻamau iā lākou ma ke ʻano o ke "kauā o ke kūʻokoʻa" a me ka "kumu o ka hoʻopōʻino ʻole i kekahi." Wahi a kēia mau loina ʻelua, pono e ʻae ʻia e hāʻule i ke aloha me kahi pēpē aloha. No ka mea, ʻo ia ke kūʻokoʻa pilikino a ʻaʻole hoʻopōʻino i kekahi. No ka mea ʻaʻole pili ia i nā mea ʻē aʻe, pono e ʻae ʻia ka hana.

Psychology of controlㅤ He maʻi pathological kēia? He nui ka poʻe e kapa i kēia ʻano he "pathological," akā e noʻonoʻo kākou i ke kumu e manaʻo ai mākou he "pathological." He leʻaleʻa ko kēlā me kēia kanaka, ʻaʻole anei ia ke aloha? No ke aha he mea maikaʻi ke nau i ka manamana lima akā ʻaʻole i ka pepeke kino?

Hiki iaʻu ke noʻonoʻo i ʻelua kumu no kēia. ʻO ka mea mua, no ka mea, mālama lākou i ka pēpē e like me ke kanaka a aloha iā ia me ke aloha like me ke kanaka, me he mea lā he aloha i loko o ke kino ka mea ola ʻole. ʻOiai makemake mākou a pau i ke aloha, ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia ke aloha ma ke ʻano i hoʻokaʻawale loa ʻia mai ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.

ʻO ka lua, ʻo ia ke ʻano o ka "hoʻomalu" e pili ana. ʻOiai ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana i kekahi mea, ʻo kona ʻano he mana piha iā ʻoe. ʻO ka paʻakikī o ka pilina kanaka aia i ko lākou hiki ʻole ke kāohi, no ka mea, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻomalu i nā manaʻo a me nā hana a nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, no laila e ʻike mākou a pau i ka ʻeha ʻia e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka noho pū me ia me ka loaʻa ʻole o ka ʻeha, ʻoiai inā he hoʻopunipuni ka manaʻo a ʻaʻole aloha maoli ʻo ia iā ʻoe, e hoʻomāʻona i ka makemake hohonu o ka naʻau o ke kanaka e hoʻomalu.

Akā ʻo ka hoʻolei ʻana iā ʻoe iho i loko o ka hoʻopunipuni e pale aku i ka ʻeha e hoʻopau maoli i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka pilikia? ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he ʻino loa, a ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka noho pū ʻana me nā kānaka e hiki ai iā lākou ke hōʻeha. ʻO ka makemake nui o ka mana kekahi o nā hiʻohiʻona o kahi psychopath, no laila ʻaʻole kūpono ʻo ia e ʻōlelo he "pathological".

No ka nui o ka ʻae ʻole o kekahi i kā lākou hana, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hōʻole pehea pēpē kāne he mau hui pākahi.